I see many comments saying that depressed people should “just get help” and I would just like to state that depression is really quite more serious than what many people realize. I read comments sometimes that state depression can be cured with medicines, with family, with therapy, over time, etc.. and it’s really frustrating to read that kind of stuff.
There is no “cure” for depression. People often make it sound like depression is catching a cold, that one day it will just be gone and you don’t have to worry about it. People who have suffered from depression might eventually suppress it for some time in the same way that an addict or alcoholic can say they’ve been clean for some time. The issue with depression compared to addiction is that you can’t necessarily control when you fall off the wagon. You probably won’t even realize what set it off or where it truly began, hell you probably won’t even realize that you’re in a state of depression until someone else points it out to you.
Depression is a long lasting emptiness, an inability to desire, a weakness to stand or even move.. it’s not feeling sad for a day or a week. Depression is feeling that you never want to be happy again, that you somehow don’t deserve to be happy, or that you’ve failed in finding your own happiness. Depression is disgust, anger, tiredness, bitterness, laziness, isolation, apathy, jealousy, sadness all wrapped up together. You begin avoiding people because you’ve given up on yourself and don’t want to be judged, you stop habits that you previously enjoyed because of the guilt in knowing that you might enjoy them again, hell you stop brushing your teeth or showering because taking care of yourself feels like you’re validating your existence more than you feel it’s worth.
Depression claims many lives because people continue spiraling downward into that void of despair. When other people do start reaching out, it is usually already quite late. Yeah, people will say “oh I only wish he would’ve said something, I would’ve stayed up with him all night talking if I had known it would’ve helped,” yada yada whatever to make themselves feel better about the situation. For people with depression, odds are they reached out a long time ago and were met with the feeling that they weren’t wanted. They went to hangout with friends and no one spoke to them because they were the weird one there. Odds are that they’re too afraid or ashamed to reach out again, to doctors, friends, family, or even therapists. They won’t just “go get help” because they can’t bring themselves to think of their struggle as even worthwhile enough for other people to listen to anymore. That’s just an example of what might compel them not to get help, there are hundreds of other reasons I can’t even begin to list here.